Dear introvert: Are you terrified of attending events? This will help you

Thursday, 17 November 2016

Over the years, I have gone for a number of events that have added so much value to my life. From Becoming to Live Your Dreams Africa, Speakers Connect, Invincible or  Success Stories Africa, I have not regretted going for any. 

My mum calls me waka waka 😊 (which means I like going out too much) and some people don’t believe me when I say I’m an introvert or mention during a conversation that I am shy. But I am (working on it though) According to them, “how are you able to go for all these events and still claim to be an introvert?” 

I get this question a lot and I understand why. 

It’s actually not easy. When I think about leaving my house on a Saturday morning when I can stay in bed, or just enjoy being alone by myself or when I think about the stress of entering a bus (most of these events are always on the Island I don't know why) I can become discouraged, in the end I find a way around it. 

If you don’t attend events (even the ones that will help you grow) because you are shy, well, things are about to change. 

Today I am going to share practical tips that will help introverts make up their mind to attend more events. 

Realize that it’s your life.
There’s little anyone can do to help you if you are not willing to help yourself.
Event or seminar conveners bring together amazing people who have something you need, but don’t have and the reason why you won’t go is because you are shy? It doesn’t make so much sense.  So let’s say you have always wanted to meet Funto Ibuoye, and there’s an event where she’s going to speak at, will you allow your introvertish (I just invented that) nature to hinder you? Nope! There are times you have to tell yourself that ‘this is important to my life and destiny, so I will go.’ Not everything that will help you will look nice at the beginning but that’s why you are training yourself.

Don’t always wait for someone to follow you
I, more than anyone, love having someone follow me to events. Maybe a friend or my sisters since I’m so much of an introvert, I know that even if I don’t talk to anybody at that event, I will talk to my friend, right? But what happens when there’s no one to go with you? Will you sit at home? Iro o. You have to go out. 
It’s your life; you cannot keep doing follow follow. Nothing will happen to you if you go alone, so go. 

Go for one and have a great time
All you need is one good experience and you won’t be able to wait for the next opportunity to go for an event. Now if you ask me, I can’t really remember the first event I went for but I know it made so much sense that although I am still quite shy, I can’t help myself when there’s another one event. If I never took that first step who knows maybe I’d still be sitting in my house and having fomo from seeing all the hashtags on twitter and instagram when I’m supposed to be at an event. 

Just go for one. I know one of my friends whom I dragged all the way from Ondo state to Lagos to attend Success Stories Africa and she had a great time. By the time I was talking to her about attending another one, even though she likes forming introvert, she didn’t think twice. 

If you are too shy to attend events, all you need to do is go for one and once you do, you won’t be able to stop. 

You might meet the most amazing people you will ever know.

How else do you encourage yourself to go for events even when you don't feel like it? Share with us by dropping a comment. 

If this post helped you, kindly share with your friends on social media. 

Lots of Love


  1. This is so true. I remember the first event I went for which was Live Your Dreams Africa, I went just because I wanted to conquer my fears. Although I went with my sister, I sha went and since that day I have been looking forward to the next Live Your Dreams. There is so much that we do not know and since we don't have any close relationship with these class of people (but we want to get something from them), the only sure is by attending seminars and reading books.

  2. Lol...great. Thanks Dotun for being generous to share. And I'm loving your blog. Great work dear, you are an inspiration.


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