BOY or GIRL- what's your pick?

Monday, 27 July 2015


Hiiiiiiiii! Happy new week. How has your day been? We are taking a break from the relationship series just for some time. I hope work, school and life  isn't stressful o.


I have a very serious question to ask and I need honest answers o. Abeg use you church mind to answer.

I was traveling to Lagos from Ondo state some days back and I was sitting in front with the driver and another passenger. Since the journey was going 2 be rather long I decided that I would make the most of my time by reading. (for my mind I really wanted to read o) but it just turned out that the other passenger can talk! Ahahan before we left we park he was already asking me so many questions. At a point I was even getting angry. So in the course of our discussion (because we talked about practically everything) something quite important came up.

The two of us discovered that the driver has I think 3 or 4 children and all of them are girls. So this Mr. Passenger beside me was trying to advise the driver of the kind of food to eat before he sleeps with his wife next so that she can have a boy child. He told him to take ogede dudu ( un ripe plantain) and garden egg stew.  In my mind I was wondering whether the matter was that serious that he needed to do all that wahala but they were not talking to me and as a good girl I was minding my business.

Then the gist got sweeter because Mr. Passenger now told us about his uncle who was a pilot or so( I'm not sure sha) has about 5girls and was always sad. He even said there was a particular day that the man came back home and was so moody and irritable nobody could talk to him. Few days later, he was with his uncle in the car and the man almost killed both of them while driving. He said at that point, he had to ask the man what exactly the problem was. My people the answer was sad. The man said: it is only a person who has a child that has a reason to live. I was like whaaaaaaat! with 5 girls at home?  he's saying he has no children hence no reason to live??? Ehen! Honestly the rest of the journey was rather quiet for me. Considering the fact that I'm a lady I don't know if I will be glad to hear my dad refer to me as nothing just because I'm not a guy.

 I know all the arguments for a male child are really serious. And trust me I'm not a feminist. But I just want to know is the gender of your child synonymous with your happiness? Biko answer me with your church mind o. Guys will you be happy if your wife gives birth to only female children? Ladies how will you feel if you give birth to only girls?
Your thoughts please!

12 comments:

  1. Folasade Adejoorin27 July 2015 at 17:51

    I post this comment as your mum and mother to two other girls. Don't form o cos to me you're still a girl. I therefore when I had Ifeoluwa who is the third girl. Your dad walked into the hospital room and I. Told him, 'she's a girl o'. For him in wasn't a problem. In fact he celebrated Ife's birth more than that of her older ones. Reason? Her pregnancy and delivery were quite traumatic and some was just happy that mother and child survived. Then ce the agboranduns ( sympathisers) who would call you and your sister to go tell your mum that you people were not complete. My response always was who counted you and found you incomplete? When I found out you were getting bothered by the fact that you were all girls, I showed you scriptures in Numbers27: 1-7. It speaks of the daughters of Zelophehad whose father had no male child till he died. When it came time to share the land to the tribes and families, Moses wasn't going to give them. But they dared to dream, to be bold and to act! They asked for an inheritance! Against the norms, the practice and the culture and god said they were correct, Moses give them an inheritance. And so a new law and order began in the land of Israel. I asked you then,if a boy comes along now is he the one that will teach you what to to do and set the pace for you. You may not remember your answer then but I still do! You said no that you were the one that would show him the example and set the pace. And so your dad and I raised you to be the best you can in life. But now a boy never came along. So I say to you and your sisters like a telecommunications company will tell its customers. GLOW! RULE YOUR WORLD. God believes in you and I do too.

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  2. Hmmm. Everyone with different view on what they really understand by having children. First of all, they 5 girls are not bought with money they great gifts from God. Seeing them as nothing could make someone else weep bcos Theyy wish to have just ONE girl. Anyways. For me any child given to me nd my wife by God is our pride nd we shall love with our whole heart. We don't need Ogede Dudu. Lol..

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  3. Hmmm. Everyone with different view on what they really understand by having children. First of all, they 5 girls are not bought with money they great gifts from God. Seeing them as nothing could make someone else weep bcos Theyy wish to have just ONE girl. Anyways. For me any child given to me nd my wife by God is our pride nd we shall love with our whole heart. We don't need Ogede Dudu. Lol..

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  4. Wow!!! for a Pilot that's deep! I would have blamed it on uncivilization or lack of education but I'm sure it has nothing to do with any of those. Well, different strokes for different folks!
    Human beings are superior to animals but no human is superior to another human! Male or Female, we all have same potential!! but I think it's dependent on what the person wants or derives from having children! All I want is a family to love, to live for, to die for, to make heaven with... be it girls, be it boys.... I'm full of joy because I have children of my own who will bring me Joy and happiness and raise my horns... and would remain my kids always...

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  5. Henhen! Ogede dudu is d way abi? Lolz. Just leant a new one today. Seriously, I understand the man. Possibly he is the child of his parents or even his generation, he needs a male child to continue to bear his surname so that it doesn't die. In a situation like that, I think the man should take it like that, or adopt a man child or he should keep on trying (you understand nah #wink). When he has tried and discovers he is even adding to the girls, he will understand why he needs to take the 4 girls like that. According to biology, the man determines the sex of a child. He should visit a doctor and they will instruct him on what to do. I know of a man in my street that tried and tries ehn, this man no see boy oo. Na so so babes oo. Plus these girls are very pretty. Be it all girls or all boys, give thanks to God. Some people out there just want to have a baby (boy or girl), they don't mind. Well, this is an interesting topic. Thanks you Adejoorin Adedotun. God bless you.

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    1. As in Ogede dudu to the rescue. But I like the idea of adopting if there's no biological solution. But whether boy or girl children are the heritage of God. Thank you for reading o jare. God bless you too!

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  6. Well, I am a girl and I think it is a big insult for anybody to imply that I don't count just because of that. And as for keeping the family name, my father is the only guy and he has three female children and never did he not even by mistake make us feel bad. Rather he always told us what God says about us and today we are all excelling. The eldest is olori, the second is almost a chartered accountant and as for me I am soon going to become a doctor. So my people, if God gives you a boy or a girl, the important thing is raise them in the way of God. The Bible says that me and the children that God has given me are for signs and wonders. God didn't say only if you have a boy. If you are not appreciative of the children that you have just because they are girls, you should remember that so many people cry and even weep bitterly everyday just so that they would a child irrespective of the gender. Girls are not useless and neither are boys.

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    1. Thank you for sharing. No child is useless. As long as we are ready to live up to our full potential.

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  7. Great post by the way.

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  8. A dicey one!!!
    The man's comment was too absurd though I don't know is pains but is just like questioning God on what he did for him..... In as much I will like boy's and girls to be part of my household, I wouldn't allow it to determine my happiness if I end up having all girls...... The major thing is your happiness and the happiness of your family not even your extended families.

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    1. I agree with you, it should never determine your happiness. Thank you Adebayo

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